Being a believer I know God called us to this little girl and I know we were meant to be a family with a child who has special needs, and knowing that has helped on those tougher days. I would not change having my daughter in my life.

She makes me a better person. She was God’s catalyst for more growth in my Christian walk than anything beforehand. Her life story has taught me so much about the love and mercy of the Lord as well as the effects of sin upon people. She is my delight and I am so very thankful He chose me to be her mother.

However, and this is my note of caution, as you mentioned in your review of this wonderful website. I wish I had been better prepared to help her early on. We spent three frustrating years trying to figure out what was going on with our daughter, as well as how to help her. I regret not knowing the things I know now. But, even our lack of education or understanding has led us to doing God’s work for those children now coming home, which says that the Lord will use all things for good.

Adoption and adopted kids ROCK!

Identity, history… how their relinquishments came about… was it peaceful? Was my mother coerced? How did her family feel about my being given over to some one they didn’t know? What were they like? What was their society like and how did it feel about sending me and the other children like me into another country?

The child always (god willing) grows up! And that child, now adult, will hold their parents, their society accountable for their histories and the choices that were made in their interests.

It is more than joy that is set before every adopting parent.. it is responsibility… and an entrance into the mysteries of this existence and the depths of human life and suffering… into maturity…

this in a way different than the path for a parent who gives birth… who also has to walk towards maturity. Adoption parenting must be more intentional and with greater preparation. There are resources available.